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You know your child.
Are they thriving?
These questions are not about whether you are doing enough. They are about what you are already noticing, feeling, and wondering as a parent. Answer honestly, not aspirationally. The more truthful you are, the more useful your result will be.
There are no right answers here. Only honest ones. These questions help you hear it more clearly.
How to answer
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Rarely or not yet
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Sometimes, in some moments
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Often and with intention
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Consistently, it's part of who I am
Your progress0 of 20 answered
C
Pillar One
Culture: how your child experiences belonging at home and at school
Head
I can name the cultural values, traditions, and stories that shape our family life, and I think consciously about how these show up in how my child sees themselves and the world.
Heart
My child feels genuinely proud of who they are: their background, their language, their family, and their story. They do not feel they need to leave any part of themselves at the school gate.
Hands
We have rituals and routines at home that honour our heritage and language. Our family's way of doing things is something we celebrate, not something we hide or hurry past.
Head
If our family speaks more than one language, I treat that as a gift rather than a gap. I actively support my child's home language alongside the language of school.
Heart
My child feels safe to make mistakes at home. We treat getting things wrong as part of learning, not something to be ashamed of or fixed immediately.
A
Pillar Two
Agency: how much freedom and independence you are building at home
Heart
I know my child beyond their grades and achievements. I know what lights them up, what worries them, and what they are quietly working through right now.
Hands
At home, I regularly let my child choose how they spend their free time, what tasks they take on, and how they manage their own responsibilities. I offer freedom before I offer direction.
Head
I notice when I am solving problems for my child that they could solve themselves. I catch the moments when stepping back would teach more than stepping in.
Heart
My child knows their voice matters in our family. Their opinions, preferences, and ideas are genuinely considered, not just heard and set aside.
Hands
I help my child develop the ability to manage their own feelings and behaviour. We have conversations about self-regulation rather than just imposing rules, and I model it myself.
R
Pillar Three
Roles: how you and your child design life and learning together
Head
I ask my child questions more often than I give answers. I am more interested in how they are thinking than in whether they have the right answer.
Hands
My child has a real role in how our household runs. Chores, routines, and shared responsibilities are not just tasks I assign. They are systems we have built together.
Heart
I think about balance at home between school work, chores, free time, and play. I do not let one crowd out the others, because all of them are part of how my child grows.
Head
My child helps decide how they spend their time after school and on weekends. Their interests and preferences shape our family schedule, not just our convenience as adults.
Hands
When my child has a problem at home, a conflict, a setback, something that feels unfair, I help them think through it rather than resolving it for them. Their voice is part of the solution.
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Pillar Four
Experiences: the moments that are shaping who your child is becoming
Heart
I can name the experiences in my child's life that have left a real mark on them. I know what has shaped who they are, and I hold those moments with care.
Head
I intentionally create experiences that connect my child to the wider world: travel, community, service, culture, and encounters with people whose lives are different from ours.
Hands
My child is encouraged to contribute at home and in our community in real ways, not just to be looked after, but to give, help, and make a difference to others.
Head
I think about the kind of person my child is growing into, not just the grades they are achieving. I make decisions about their time and activities with their long-term identity in mind.
Heart
I want my child to grow into someone who keeps learning, keeps asking questions, and keeps caring about the world long after they leave school. That hope shapes the choices I make for them now.
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